What is Self Compassion?

Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, care, and understanding that you would offer to a close friend going through a hard time.

Instead of judging or criticizing yourself for your mistakes or struggles, self-compassion means recognizing that being human includes imperfection, and that you still deserve support—even from yourself.

🧡 What Are the 3 Parts of Self-Compassion?

1. Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment

Be gentle and understanding with yourself instead of harsh or critical.🗣 “I’m doing the best I can.”🗣 “It’s okay to struggle—I don’t have to be perfect.”

2. Common Humanity vs. Isolation

Remember that everyone makes mistakes, feels pain, and faces challenges. You’re not alone.🗣 “Others feel this way too.”🗣 “This is part of being human.”

3. Mindfulness vs. Over-Identification

Acknowledge your emotions without exaggerating or avoiding them.🗣 “I notice that I’m feeling sad. That’s okay.”🗣 “I don’t need to get lost in this feeling—it will pass.”

🌱 How to Practice Self-Compassion (Daily Tools)

✅ 1. Talk to Yourself Like a Friend

When you catch yourself thinking, “I’m so stupid,” stop and ask:

“Would I say this to someone I love? ”If not, rephrase it kindly:🗣 “That was a mistake, but I’m learning.”

✅ 2. Try a Self-Compassion Break

Take 1 minute when you’re overwhelmed:

🙏 Pause💬 Say: “This is a moment of struggle.” “Struggle is part of being human.” “May I be kind to myself right now.”

✅ 3. Use Soothing Actions

• Place a hand over your heart

• Take 5 slow, deep breaths

• Wrap yourself in a blanket

• Listen to calming music

  
  

  All of these can signal safety and care to your nervous system.

  
  

✅ 4. Journal with Compassion

Write about a difficult experience—but instead of blaming yourself, write from a place of understanding and support.

Use prompts like:

• “What would I say to a friend in this situation?”

• “How can I take care of myself right now?”

  
  

✅ 5. Set Boundaries from a Place of Worth

Self-compassion means protecting your energy and saying no when needed—not because you don’t care about others, but because you care about yourself too.

💡 Remember:

Self-compassion is not self-pity.

It’s not selfish.

And it’s not weakness.

It’s a powerful, healing mindset that helps you move forward with more peace, resilience, and emotional balance.

For more information on self compassion look up Dr. Kristin Neff.